Family Obligations + Networking


An extract from Business Networking + Sex

The Survey Says… Family Obligations

Although family obligations were not a big issue to most, the figure below found that women generally found it to be a problem slights more than did men

Statement to rate: I find that family obligations prevent or hinder me from networking

Female Male
Usually or Always 11.9% (663) 9.6% (531)
Sometimes 25% (1394) 23.2% (1285)
Never or Rarely 63% (3502) 67.2% (3719)

He Says… The Conflict Between Family Obligations and Networking

familymenAs the breadwinner, my primary responsibility to my family is to provide. I must provide a dwelling, food, heat, transportation, and all the other stuff that costs money. Though female primary breadwinners are on the rise, in more than 60% of households, men still hold that role, with the women being the primary caretaker of the family, according to a WorkingMother.com survey done in 2010.

The responsibilities of caretaker and breadwinner alike are not easy, and the hours of sweat equity invested are many. The duties and requirements cost money, energy, and most importantly time. For the breadwinner, that time spent is usually away from the family. It’s unfortunate, but I must do what I must do to provide for my family and maintain the lifestyle that my wife and I have decided is right for us.

Networking is an important part of my business. Building relationships, creating visibility and taking advantages of introductions opportunities to new professionals in the community are all mandatory aspects to growing a local business.  Does family time suffer because of it? Regrettably, yes.

I’d like women reading this to understand that for most men, time away from family is not what we want. It is simply what must be done. The reason family time does not get in the way of my networking is because I know that in order for my family to remain my primary commitment, focusing on my business must remain my primary objective.

There are cycles in which I produce the necessary cash flow to meet the family goals, and then I can relax, or ‘coast’ for a little bit and spend time with the family, but then the cycle inevitably starts up again and I have to honor the ebb and flow of keeping the bank ledger balanced. Also, by working extra hard on nights and mornings that aren’t reserved for important family events, I can get a little ahead and then be free to enjoy time with my family.

This extract is from Business Networking + Sex (not what you think) by Ivan Misner, Hazel M Walker and Frank J. De Raffele Jr.  Contact your local director for a copy.  Next month we see what “She says…”

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